Living at home as an adult...a How-To Guide
Living at home as an adult isn’t always easy, yet it's something that more and more adults are having to do. In 2019 it was discovered that 3.5 million young adults in their 20s and20s were living at home, this had increased by 1.1 million since 1999. With this being such a common occurrence, it seems to be an important topic to look at. Here I will discuss some potential ways that might help people to cope with living at home as an adult.
Come up with guidelines
Before you move back in it might be a good idea to sit down with your parents and ask them to come up with some guidelines, ask what they are expecting of you whilst you are living with them as an adult. Living in collaboration with your parents as an adult is key to ensuring you all live in a positive environment.
Some important questions to ask might include:
· Do you want me to pay rent? If yes, how much?
· How can I help with chores?
· How long can I stay?
Respect Personal Space – and demand your own!
You have your own space in your parents’ house (hopefully), and your parents have theirs. Remembering this is vital to keep the relationship between yourself and your parents happy, reducing any tension. There is nothing worse than someone bursting into your private space when you feel like having some “me-time”, or simply are not feeling sociable. So, make sure you make this clear to your parents, and any potential siblings in the home, but also make sure you are giving them their privacy too.
It might be your parent's
house and maybe you didn’t do many chores to help out when you lived there as a child and teenager, but you’re an adult now. Taking on the responsibilities to clean your own room, do your laundry and contribute to making dinners throughout the week will all contribute to a positive dynamic in the house. Not only will this show that you appreciate your parents allowing you back into their home as an adult, but it will also make their workload smaller and therefore an even bigger pleasure to have you around again. The last thing you want to do is make your parents feel like you have checked into a hotel!
These are just a few suggestions, and I am sure that there are many more ways that you could make living at home as an adult a pleasurable experience. The key here is communication and ensuring that everyone involved feels heard and respected.